Sanam Saeed is an actor who has always kept her personal life completely private. Even her social media only reveals glimpses of her professional life, without divulging much into her personal space. The actress seldom gives interviews and so it came as news to many when she revealed that her marriage with childhood friend, Farhan Hasan is over.
On a recent episode of Speak your Heart with Samina Peerzada, the Cake actress broke silence on her divorce and the reasons behind it. Sanam earnestly took responsibility of the breakup and said, “My mother was terminally ill and I was in Dubai. At that time, I wasn’t in a frame of mind to maintain the balance and dedication required by a marriage. I had to leave Dubai; I didn’t want to make sacrifices as I had a fear that perhaps my mother will pass away.”
The actress took a big step but she said it was important for her to stay true to herself. “Hurting someone is too tragic and I know how it feels, but it was the right decision,” she said, adding, “It’s hard to be married to an actor, when you’re not in the business, be it a man or a woman. You cannot trust someone from the industry when you do not belong to it. I always thought it would work; this is what we see in Hollywood and Bollywood — you marry someone from your own kind (line of work) or else you leave the industry for a little bit — it becomes your secondary focus, your marriage is the primary focus.”
The Deedan actress expressed that her husband was supportive but she felt he would be better off without her. “It’s a silly thing as he said ‘I don’t need anyone but you,’ yet I believed that he would be better off with someone who can live there and give him time and perhaps who is not too consumed by work and family commitments,” she said.
When asked how she coped up with divorce Sanam said, “I felt more relieved after it because if I am not being able to be a responsible, dedicated, devoted and doting wife who I really wanted to be, it affects my relationship. I am a firm believer that a husband and wife should live together at least for the first ten years of their life and then perhaps after bringing up children, they can go back to their individual selves.”
You can watch her interview here: